The key to successful dating is confidence and the right attitude, but the work needs to start before you start dating.
Put in the work to make yourself feel good before you start dating. This applies to the ladies and gents equally. Confidence is about how we feel about ourselves, and how we perceive others see us. There is a long list of things you can do to build your self-confidence and self-esteem, and thus how relaxed and attractive you appear on your dates.
If you are uncomfortable about your weight or your fitness level then do something about it. If you are new to exercise then get some advice and support from a professional. If weight-loss is your aim, then do get some professional support. Even a brisk walk will raise your mood, as well as toning those legs! You don't have to join a gym; hire the services of a personal trainer if you prefer to exercise at home - get one recommended to you. Always take advice before starting on a new exercise regime.
Look after your appearance with regular haircuts, tidy nails etc. Treat yourself to a facial or massage (gents as well) to get a glowing, healthy skin. Go to a professional clinic and ask for a VISIA Complexion Analysis (yes guys too) and consider the variety of treatments available to improve tone and appearance.
Make sure you always wear clothes that flatter you. If you are unsure, ask a friend you trust, or hire the services of an image consultant to find out what suits you. Remember that what suited you 10 years ago, may not suit you now. Again, this applies to the gents too. There are specialist stylists for men and it truly doesn’t cost the earth.
Take up a new hobby, enrol on a class, try that fitness class at the gym that looks scary. Anything that is maybe outside of your comfort zone. You will feel great having tried something new – even if you never do that thing again!
You do not have to do all of the above. Remember this is to feel good about YOU. You know where your insecurities lie so face them and blow them away.
Dating should be fun, but it should also only be one part of your life. Your whole existence and happiness should not depend on a successful date!
You know the saying, that you will find romance when you are least expecting it? That's because when you are busy and active, and you have a balance of interests and social activities you are more attractive and confident. So maintain a healthy social life, seeing your friends and making new ones. Pursue your interests and sports because, as described above, all these things make you feel good about yourself.
If you have other friends and interests to fall back on, the importance of a successful outcome from any one date will be diminished. If you are going to date then there is going to be rejection - even if you look like Brad Pitt or Cheryl Cole! I will allow you a day (or two if your date was with Brad Pitt!) but then get on with seeing your friends and hitting the gym!
You will know instinctively when you are ‘date ready’. You will feel relaxed and excited about the prospect of meeting someone special.
Get date ready and be ready for that special date.
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Rebecca Sell
Peagreen Introductions
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